In the hiking world there is a common expression:
Hike your own Hike
Put simply it means to do things your own way. What this means is that you shouldn’t let others tell you how you should be hiking. You should hike how, where and when you want to hike – you know…within reason!
(On a side note – I am really loving all the spare time i have that used to be used for being drunk or hungover. It allows me to pick up activities like hiking!)
With drinking- or not drinking rather – this means picking a path to sobriety that best fits you. Listen to others for advice. But ultimately do what is best for you.
What is going to help you keep sober the best?
- Maybe the 12 step program isn’t for you
- Maybe a sponsor will keep you on track better
- Maybe meetings with a significant religious element
- Maybe therapy
- Maybe you can go it alone and talking with others would actually be a hindrance
- Maybe you cannot be around alcohol at all
- Maybe you just cannot be around certain people who are drinking
- Maybe maybe maybe
At the end of the day Nobody can answer these questions for you. You need to do what is best for you.
Personally I like non-religious meetings with a large number of attendees. I don’t want to be the center of attention so sitting back and just listening is what suits me. This is why I also do not want a sponsor.
When I go out with friends I am happy to sit in a bar without getting the urge. However once people begin to get drunk that is when I take my leave.
This is what works for me. For now. Maybe tomorrow it will stop working. But in this moment…
IWNDWYT – I will not drink with you today!