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Where Did My Money Go? The Hidden Costs of Alcohol Use Disorder

Written by Mike Jacobsen.

Where did my money go?
Where did my money go?

At the time of my last drink of alcohol I was flat broke. My net-worth was definitely in the red. I had no positive balances in any of my accounts and I was heavily into my overdraft. I also had bills and debts coming out in all different directions.

Which was funny because I was picking up a decent paycheck from my day job and I had no dependents – hell I didn’t even have a mortgage. In theory I should have had lots of money being tucked away into a savings account each month.

But I didn’t.

Instead I had an increasingly larger balance on my overdraft each month. An overdraft that had finally reached its limit. In fact I think if I hadn’t quit drinking then and there that I might not have been able to afford to carry on anyway. I shudder to think what I would have done in that scenario.

Thankfully I did quit when I did.

The thing that always got me was even though I was drunk I thought I had a grip on my finances. I would always sit down and budget my money, planning out how much I needed to live and pay my bills (and therefore how much I had left over for booze).

But somehow come the end of the month I would have overspent and would be more and more in debt.

And it wasn’t because I was buying more booze – well it wasn’t just because I was buying more booze. No it was because of all the incidental costs that come up.

All of the little things that you pay for when you are drinking that you wouldn’t have paid for sober.

Contents

  • The Hidden Costs of Drinking
  • Ubers/Lyft & Taxis
  • Eating out (Or taking away)
  • Drunken Purchases
  • Late Fees
  • Health Care Costs
  • Decreased Career Opportunities
  • Secondary Habits
  • Missed Work
  • Takeaway Exercise
    • How much do you (or did you) spend because of drinking?

The Hidden Costs of Drinking

Let’s look at them shall we?

Ubers/Lyft & Taxis

“While I may be a drunk I am a responsible drunk.”

Is what I told myself when I was jumping in and out of taxis. As long as I was not driving my drinking wasn’t a problem.

For sure not driving when drunk was responsible. But the drinking was not. And the damage the steady stream of taxi fares did on my wallet was also not responsbile.

Just two £10 (About $12) taxis a week is over a grand a year. And I for sure took more taxis than that.

Eating out (Or taking away)

Who can be bothered cooking when they are hungover?

I know I can’t. I think I honestly would rather starve. In fact sometimes I have done just that. Just lay in bed getting hunger pains instead of getting up to cook something.

So what inevitably happens?

Yep. I order food to be delivered.

Is this food cheaper than eating my own food?

Hell no.

In fact it is probably at least 3 times more expensive than anything I could have cooked for myself.

And that is just when I am hungover.

When I am drunk I am even worse. Ordering stupid amounts of appetizers to only have a bite or two.

Waking up with an 18″ pizza next to me that is not even a quarter eaten and some old fries that are cold and horrible.

Just a waste of money – and extremely unhealthy (obviously)

Drunken Purchases

Who hasn’t bought a canoe at 3 o’clock in the morning after coming home from a night out?

I knew it wasn’t just me!

So maybe you didn’t buy a canoe but I bet there’s something you did buy. Something dumb that you wouldn’t have bought sober. And likely a lot of ‘something dumbs’.

A lot of the time I wouldn’t even remember what I had ordered until it showed up at my door.

Late Fees

I’m pretty forgetful at the best of times. Throw in a constant drunk or hungover cycle and things are bound to get missed.

Most things are on direct deposit or auto-pay these days so late fees are slowly becoming a thing of the past.

But when I was still drinking I had a couple things that I paid yearly (water bill is the first one to come to mind) that were not on direct deposit.

Miss one of those bills, and then ignore the chasers. Big late fees to come. Or worse a court summons.

Health Care Costs

One particularly for my American friends.

via GIPHY

Slips, trips and falls. Those are the most common injuries.

I had a friend who broke her leg falling upstairs while she was drunk. Yeah up the stairs. Broke her leg.

But it’s not just the accidents that cause trips to the hospital. Getting into fights when drunk is very common.

And that’s not to mention the long term damage that alcohol abuse does to the body. In the longer term a drinker is going to require a lot more medical assistance than their non-drinking counterparts. And unfortunately this is going to cost you.

Decreased Career Opportunities

Much harder to quantify. But just think about it objectively.

Do you think your career has been impacted by your drinking?

Do you think if you didn’t drink you would be further along with your career goals?

I know that I definitely missed out on some promotions in work due to my drinking. And to be honest I don’t blame my managers at all. I was definitely not doing my best work while I was getting drunk every night.

Secondary Habits

Smoking, Gambling, Drugs.

Those are the big 3 vices that go hand-in-hand with alcohol addiction.

I only smoked when I was drinking. Once I quit drinking I realised that I didn’t enjoy smoking and very soon thereafter I had quit smoking.

That was a good chunk of change being saved every day. Especially in the UK which normally resides in the top 5 most expensive countries for cigarettes

Price of a packet of cigarettes in various countries across the world
https://www.numbeo.com/cost-of-living/country_price_rankings?itemId=17

Gambling was also a big expense for me when I was drinking. Now I am not going to sit here and tell you that I quit gambling entirely, because that is not true. However when I stopped drinking my gambling dropped off significantly.

When I was drunk – due to the lower inhibitions – if I was betting I needed to bet big. Otherwise there was no thrill to it. I just didn’t care about the bet if it wasn’t “go big or go home”.

Now though without the booze I am able to enjoy gambling responsibly. A couple of quid on the weekend sports does me fine.

Missed Work

We spoke about how we are more likely to be overlooked for promotions due to our drinking. But there is a more direct employment cost.

Time spent off work.

How many “sick days” have you taken because you were hungover?

How much overtime have you missed out on because you chose to go out and drink instead?

These missed opportunities are direct drinking expenses. If you were not drinking you would have made more money.

Takeaway Exercise

How much do you (or did you) spend because of drinking?

If you use a banking app you should be able to easily pull up your bank statements.

Go through each and every payment you made while you were drinking. Obviously anything spent directly on alcohol is to be counted. But you should also look at any other purchases and ask yourself:

“Would I have spent this if I was sober?”

If the only reason you spent the money was because you were drunk then add it in.

If you overspent because you were drunk (ie. you would have made a purchase anyway but at a lower price) then add in the difference between what you did spend and what you should have spent.

Now add them all up:

Alocohol Purchases + Drunken Expenses + Overpaying When Drunk = True Cost of Drinking

I Never Could Have Done This When I Was Drinking

Written by Mike Jacobsen.

Do you know how often I say that to myself?

Every. Single. Day.

I am doing things every single day that I could not, or would not, have done when I was drinking. (Yes, even while we are all on lock down for COVID-19!).

I was not doing these things simply because I was unable to. Or because I didn’t have the drive to.

When you are drunk you just want to carry on drinking. When you are hungover you just want to crawl up into a ball and go back to sleep (or carry on drinking).

There really is no room for anything else.

But when you remove alcohol from the equation so many more opportunities present themselves.

Just yesterday I spent 4 hours building a shed for my back garden. I could not have done that if I was drinking.

Just a tiny bit smaller than this one.

My bank account currently has more zeroes in it than it ever did when I was drinking. (Not a humble brag – just trying to show that I am now financially capable of doing more things than when I was drinking).

Before the COVID-19 lock down I was scheduled to run a half marathon for charity. I could not have even dreamed I would be entering for that while I was drinking.

So how does this post help you? What can you take from this to help in your life?

If you are still drinking:

What are you missing out on? – Write a list of things that you want to be doing that you are currently missing out on because of alcohol.

sobriety to-do list

Then use this list as inspiration to finally quit.

Why not read my post on what did and didn’t work for me when quitting, you might find some inspiration to help you finally take the plunge into sobriety.

If you are in recovery:

Make a list of things that you have done this week/month that would not have been possible if you were drinking.

Does this list seem a bit short to you?

Add on to the bottom of the list things that you can do now that you have quit drinking. Then use this part of the list as a to-do list.

Start with the one that seems most fun!

And remember if you are not drinking,

IWNDWYT – I will not drink with you today!

8 Tips for Being the Only Sober person at the Party

Written by Mike Jacobsen.

partying while sober
partying while sober

When I used to drink it used to be very weird to meet someone out at a bar or a party who didn’t drink. It actually made me feel a bit uncomfortable and I would make any excuse to leave the conversation.

“What’s wrong with that guy? Is he not going to be super bored?”

Truth be told I couldn’t even fathom the idea that someone could go out and have fun without drinking. It was just inconceivable to me.

Why would you go out if you weren’t drinking. What would you do?!

Well now it’s me who is the sober one. I am the one at parties sticking to the waters.

And you know what?

I still have fun. I no longer need to drink to enjoy myself. I like spending time with my friends and my family with a clear head.

And so can you. It might take a few tries to get the hang of operating sober – and I am not saying you need to be the life and soul of the party. But you can still go out, and you can still enjoy yourselves, even if you stay sober. Plus there is significantly reduced risk of doing something you regret.

That is why in this post I am going to share 8 tips I have learned through the years to cope (and thrive) while sober at a party

Contents

  • 1 – Don’t Go
  • 2 – Have an Exit Strategy
  • 3 – Prepare for an Onslaught of Questions
  • 4 – Prepare for Peer pressure
  • 5 – Check in With Your Sponsor
  • 6 – Remember your Reasons
  • 7 – Picture the Alternative
  • 8 – Have Fun

1 – Don’t Go

Let’s start off with the easiest tip.

Just don’t go.

If you are worried that going to a party is going to put your sobriety at risk then don’t go.

I say it all the time: it is ok to be a little bit selfish when it comes to your sobriety.

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If that means you have to say no to going to a party then that’s what you gotta do.

People will understand. You will find that people are a lot more understanding than we initially give them credit for.

Just let them know that you don’t feel that going to a party where alcohol is served at this time is right for you and your recovery.

Or if you don’t know them that well just say you can’t go and don’t give a reason.

But once you are more comfortable in your sobriety you will want to be able to go to parties without worrying about a relapse. With that in mind don’t worry we have some more tips for that.

2 – Have an Exit Strategy

Always know when and how you are leaving. But also be aware of how you can duck out early should the need arise.

If you are going to the party with someone else then make sure they are committed to the exit strategy as well. Consider taking seperate cars so that you are not reliant on another person wanting to leave at the same time as you.

3 – Prepare for an Onslaught of Questions

“Why aren’t you drinking”
“How long have you not been drinking”
“How much did you used to drink”
“Are you sure you’re not pregnant”
(I’m a man and I still get that one)
“What was your usual drink”
“What’s the most you’ve ever drank”
“Do you go to meetings”
“Did you get a DUI is that why you’re not drinking”

And many many more.

It is in people’s nature to ask questions and you will likely be a novelty to people. When I go to parties I know that I am often the only person there who is of age and not drinking so I do kind of stick out.

Now that I have been sober for a while I don’t actually mind these questions. It’s only when people go on and on about it that it starts to annoy me. When that happens I just say “listen can we talk about something else” and that usually moves the conversation along.

You might need to be direct with some people and explicitly say you don’t want to talk about your sobriety with them. Some people just don’t get the hint.

With these people I give them a chance and tell them I don’t want to talk about it any more. Then if they continue to press I simply walk away. It is not rude to leave a conversation that you have said you don’t want to have. They were being rude continuing to press.

Either way just make sure you know that there will be questions and think about how you are going to handle that.

4 – Prepare for Peer pressure

I split this out from the questions tip above because I think peer pressure is different. Asking questions is one thing but actively trying to get you to drink is another.

But it happens. A lot.

Often it will be people who don’t know any better and don’t realise that drinking was a seriously issue for you. With these people a simple “No – and stop asking” should be enough.

However there will be other people who push it a bit too far.

You will find that the people who take it too far are also the people who drink too much themselves. I’m not a psychologist but it’s probably a case of being in denial about their own drinking and lashing out at others.

Make sure you remember that these people exist and that you might be unlucky enough to run into them. The best course of action I have found is to ignore them. Failing that is to get safety in numbers. If other people are around to see them behaving like an ass then they are less likely to do so.

5 – Check in With Your Sponsor

Sponsors are a big thing in AA groups. After learning from the big book and following the 12-step program getting a sponsor is one of the core philosophies.

Simply put a sponsor is a sobriety mentor. If you have a sponsor then you should definitely let them know that you are heading to a party where there will be alcohol and ask that they check in with you throughout the day/evening.

If you have a good sponsor they will also be able to tell you if they think you are ready for a party in the first place.

When you are at the party you should always keep in mind that you can step out at any time and give your sponsor a call.

If you don’t have a sponsor then try talking with a close friend or relative. Let them know you might want to speak with them during the party and see if they are open to being ‘on call’ as it were.

6 – Remember your Reasons

Everyone has their own reasons for quitting drinking. For some it is because drinking was causing health issues. For others it was impacting relationships with friends and family. Perhaps money reasons drove you to quit.

The reality is that the true driver for you quitting is probably a little bit of all of those reasons and some others.

You had a drinking problem and you decided to quit.

When you are at a party and are being tempted into drinking remember your reasons for quitting.

Pro tip: Write down your reasons and take them with you so you can read through them when you feel tested

7 – Picture the Alternative

If you weren’t at this party sober where would you be? Probably at this party drinking, right?

How do you think that would go? I know if it was me then it would mean some pre-drinks before the party. Then slamming back a lot more drinks than anyone else once I was at the party.

I would definitely be the last one to leave and there would probably be some drinking alone if I couldn’t find anyone to drink with me afterwards.

Plus there is a near certain chance that I would say or do something embarassing or regretful while I was drunk.

That’s just how it goes and is why I no longer drink.

So when you are at a party and are starting to question your decision to remain sober just think about what it will be like if you drink.

8 – Have Fun

This is how I dance when sober via GIPHY

It is a party after-all. So there’s no drinking what else is there to do?

I’m not the most outgoing person in the world so I always try to eye up a pool table and hang around there.

If there’s no pool table I look around for any other activities.

Worst case scenario I just find a quiet corner, grab a few of my friends and just shoot the breeze. If I can’t find a few friends at a party why am I even there!?

The key thing is to stop relating alcohol with fun. Alcohol doesn’t make things fun. You make them fun. If you need alcohol to enjoy something then do you really actually enjoy it? – Tweet This

That’s all the tips I have for now. If you have any tips for enjoying a party without drinking please reply in the comments below. If not then take it easy and…

IWNDWYT – I will not drink with your today.

Going Sober: Should You Travel for Rehab?

Written by Mike Jacobsen.

Admitting you have a problem with drinking is a great first step. But it is only the first step. The next step is to decide what help you need. I always recommend rehab for those where rehab is an option – for some rehab isn’t an option either because some areas do not have any spaces or any that do are too expensive.

Rehab allows you to detox from the booze in a safe place monitored by medical professionals. Rehab also gives you a chance to step back from the pressures of life and just get to grips with your issues. During rehab you will learn the skills that you will need to resist the urge to drink and how to live a happy, pro-active life without alcohol.

Basically rehab gives you the best chance of getting sober and more importantly remaining sober.

Contents

  • Finding rehab centers
  • Pros for traveling
    • More Options
    • Fresh start mindset
    • Less likely to just walk away when it gets tough
    • More private
  • Pros for staying local
    • Able to do outpatient treatment
    • Easier for loved ones to visit
    • Easier for the rehab to setup an aftercare plan for you
    • Cheaper (maybe)
  • What to choose

Finding rehab centers

https://www.google.com/search?q=local%20rehab

A quick google search is a great place to start. Google’s integrated local search will pull up and showcase all of your local rehab centers (that are on Google Maps). From there you can see what is available locally for you.

Try expanding the search to your wider area or for the whole state/county (e.g. search for “Rehab Kentucky”). Or maybe you have something specific in mind (e.g. search for “Rehab centers with a swimming pool” or “Rehab centers that use hypnotherapy”)

You should also ask your Doctor for their recommendation. They will have contacts with rehab centers or should at least know of a rehab counselor that you can go to.

If you start going to meetings before you enter rehab then you should ask around there to see what people ‘in the know’ recommend.

Once you have you list of potential centers you are likely to have a bunch of facilities that are local and a few facilities that are much further away.

You will need to choose whether you want to travel to rehab or if you feel more comfortable staying close to home.

Pros for traveling

More Options

Simply put your local area will only have a few rehab options to choose from. The further afield you search the more options you are going to find.

More options means you will have more of a choice. More of a choice on price, quality and even the style of rehab center. If you have a particular vision in mind for what your rehab should look like travelling will make it easier for you to find.

Fresh start mindset

Putting distance between yourself and the people/places triggering you to drink can help when trying to get into the mindset required for quitting.

Less likely to just walk away when it gets tough

Going sober isn’t easy. No matter how good the rehab facility is you are still going to have moments where you want to drink. It’s in these moments that we do not want to give ourselves an ‘easy out’. If we are miles away from home it is not as easy for us to just run back.

More private

The facility itself may not be as private as local ones but the sheer fact that it is further away makes it more private for you.

Being further away from home makes it that much more unlikely for you to be recognised. So if that is important to you consider a center far away from home.

Pros for staying local

Able to do outpatient treatment

Obviously if you are looking at doing outpatient treatment then you will need a facility close to home. (No point doing outpathient treatment and then going back to a hotel room!)

Staying local is therefore good for those of you who are looking at doing treatment around your current commitments. Maybe your job will not allow you time off, or maybe you need to care for loved ones. If that’s the case outpatient treatment locally would be a good solution for you.

Easier for loved ones to visit

This one is a bit of a double edged sword in that it could be a pro or it could be a con depending on your loved ones. If you find comfort in seeing your loved ones and they are supportive toward your sobriety then being close to home and close to them will be beneficial.

If on the other hand your friends and family are a trigger for you. Or if they are just general negative influences, then going further away might be the choice. (Also consider cutting any toxic family members out of your life especially if they threaten your sobriety)

Easier for the rehab to setup an aftercare plan for you

The treatment you receive during rehab is just the start. (sorry!). Some people can come out of rehab and be fine and never think about drinking ever again. But most people need some kind of aftercare. Whether it is regular therapy sessions, AA meetings or some other type of counselling it is going to be easier for the rehab team to build your aftercare program if it is taking place in the same area as rehab.

Cheaper (maybe)

Staying local means you wont have to pay for airfare, gas, train tickets or whatever other relocation costs you incur during the checking in process.

I say maybe because as mentioned above it could be that your local rehabs are all more expensive than the choice offered. It is always worth keeping in mind though that the cost of rehab isn’t the only cost that you will have to pay. There’s the travel fees, the additional bills, the missed time off work etc.

What to choose

This isn’t a choice that you should make lightly. A good experience in rehab forms the foundation blocks for the rest of your sober life. If you have a bad experience or if you fail to complete your time in rehab then the chances of a relapse go way up.

Talk to your friends, your family, your Doctor. Really think about the options and pick the one that’s right for you. The one that has the best chance at getting you on the sobriety track.

Coronavirus & Your Sobriety – Handling Self-Isolation Without Relapsing

Written by Mike Jacobsen.

self-isolation sobriety
self-isolation sobriety

Day 2 of self-isolation and the people have resorted to cannibalism after one inmate ate the last turkey dinosaur.

Ok well it’s not quite that bad…yet.

After reading the latest guidance from the UK government I decided to self-isolate myself for the next week. This is mainly because through my work with a local outreach charity I know a number of high risk people (unfortunately years of alcohol abuse means you have a higher risk of dying from things like this coronavirus). While I feel somewhat fine in myself at the moment I didn’t want to risk transferring it to someone else – and have that on my conscience.

So I am self-isolating. While at the same time trying to maintain my own sobriety. This is going to be a challenge. Particularly since I know how easily I get bored when I’m stuck in the house.

If you are also self-isolating – or if you just need someone to talk to about alcohol abuse and sobriety – then reach out to me. I answer every email I get personally so you know you will always have someone you can reach out to.

Contents

  • Why boredom is the enemy
  • Get in the right mindset
  • Get rid of any booze in the house
  • Be online
  • Be productive
  • Keep entertained
  • Be active
  • Be social

Why boredom is the enemy

Boredom is one of the biggest causes of relapse. When you are just starting out it can be difficult transitioning from a life consumed by drinking to a life with a lot of free time.

All that free time makes it difficult to stay busy and engaged all of the time. Throw in the mix the coronavirus and having to stay at home and you have yourself a perfect recipe for poor decision making, restlessness, loneliness, anger and finally relapse.

So while we are self-isolating it is important we keep in mind that boredom leads to relapse and take steps to mitigate this risk.

Get in the right mindset

Self-isolation isn’t easy. Going sober isn’t easy.

Trying to do both at the same time – isn’t easy.

It’s important that you realize this so that you can properly prepare yourself. Any relapse prevention plans you have made for yourself may need to be re-evaluated.

In previous posts I have talked about how you are allowed to be a little bit selfish when it comes to your sobriety. By that I meant that you should not feel bad about saying ‘No’ to friends and family if what they are asking of you is likely to threaten your sobriety.

Unfortunately that doesn’t really apply in the current situation. If you are in isolation because you are showing signs of having the virus (or if you know you have the virus) then purposely coming into contact with other people for any reason is more than a little bit selfish.

That’s just the way it is I’m afraid. I am in isolation myself and I know that I could really do with getting out the house and sitting in on a meeting. However I know that there are one or two elderly people in local meetings and I would feel awful if my going to the meeting caused them to fall ill.

Telling a friend you can’t drive them to the pub because you are uncomfortable being near pubs at the moment – little bit selfish, but needs to be done

Leaving the house when under self-isolation to sit in an enclosed space with high risk members of the public – more than a little bit selfish, bit of a dick move, don’t do it.

Putting yourself in the right mindset ahead of time will help you down the road. Knowing what is to come will allow you to prepare mentally to get through it.

With that in mind here are some of the things that I have been doing while cooped up.

Get rid of any booze in the house

Fairy typical step when going sober is to get rid of the booze in your house. There will be times when you are tempted to take a drink and the best thing we can do for ourselves is to make it difficult to give into that temptation.

Now that we’re confined to our home for the next week or so we should look to do this again. Since I have been sober for a while now I no longer feel tempted by having alcohol around the house. And since I am not the only person living here there is sometimes alcohol around the house.

Having said that though, this is new territory for me. I do not know how I am going to feel after being stuck here for a week or longer. With that in mind I have spoken with the people I live with and asked for all alcohol to be removed until I am no longer under self-isolation

Asking for there not to be alcohol around the house while you are quarantined – a little bit selfish (allowed)

Be online

Meetings, podcasts, blogs, ebooks. Everything can be done online these days.

A lot of food delivery companies are even doing contactless delivery in response to calls for ‘social distancing’. They come to your house, place the food on your door-step, ring your doorbell and then take off. So you can still get your favorite meals while you are on lock-down.

Sneaky via GIPHY

Many meetings are also looking at switching to online. My local meeting has been called off for at least two weeks. However they have setup a Whatsapp group for all of the members to keep in contact and help where they can.

If you can I suggest you reach out to the co-ordinator of your meeting and suggest they take your meetings online as opposed to outright cancelling them. Better a temporary online group than no group at all.

There are also some support groups that are always online:

/r/stopdrinking – one of my favorite subreddits. They have a 24/7 chat room for visitors to talk through their issues. Check that out here

Intherooms.com – Hosting 15+ video meetings a day Intherooms is a great replacement for live meetings. Just log-in find a meeting for you and join. If you have a webcam/microphone then you will be able to live share, otherwise you can sit back and listen (what I mainly do in meetings anyway).

SoberRecovery Forums – Or if old school forums are more your style the community over at Sober Recovery boasts over 168,000 members. Why not get started in one of their Newcomers threads?

Or if just listening is your thing check out this great post on the best sobriety podcasts

Be productive

You are stuck in the house, may as well make the most of it.

Are there any chores you have been putting off? Maybe now is the time for a big spring clean.

Is there anything you can be learning that will help your future career prospects? Maybe taking an online course to gain some additional professional qualifications would be a productive use of this down time.

Is there a home improvement project you have been thinking about? I’ve been eyeing up the spare room the past couple of days. It definitely could do with the wall paper being re-done. Maybe a couple of shelves being knocked up as well.

Artists rendition via GIPHY

Is there a new skill you have always wanted to learn? Literally anything can be found on youtube these days. As long as you have the time and space to practice why not give it a go. Just imagine how good you will feel leaving isolation with a new skill under your belt, instead of having just killed the time off with netflix. Or worse…drinking.

Keep entertained

Bit pretentious but ok I get the point

There are 24 hours in a day. Assuming you sleep 8 hours a day that leaves 16. That is 16 hours we need to fill from morning through to night.

If you can fill this time with productive activities without going crazy then I tip my cap to you.

For the rest of us mere mortals we will need something to keep us entertained after we grow tired of being productive.

What I have done is pull both TV’s into the one room and have set up my playstation on one and Netflix on the other. Currently I am doing another run through of the latest Spiderman game while watching season 2 of Altered Carbon. Not a bad way to spend your day I tell you!

The number of entertainment services we have available to us these days is truly crazy. Netflix, Amazon Prime, Disney+, Youtube, Podcasts, Ebooks, Xbox Live, PSN, Steam.

And that’s just online services. Don’t forget about board games, DVDs, books, card games, magazines. With same day shipping you can get whatever you want delivered to your house in next to no time.

Just one or two of the above could be enough to keep you entertained for a week or more.

Be active

Alcohol is a poison. We all know that.

After years of abusing our body it is important that in our sobriety we do all we can to reverse this damage by eating right and by getting exercise.

Self-isolation is absolutely no excuse to start slipping on this. There are plenty of exercises that you can do from your own home.

This is the one that I have been doing the past two days:

This is where the internet is our saving grace once again. Youtube has literally millions of exercise and training videos for you to workout to. The above is just the first one I found and liked the look of. Try it out for yourself. Use the search function to find the exact type of workout program for you.

As an example you could search for:

“Advanced Yoga Workout” – which would bring you to this video – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A56qWHCTP6w

“Indoor Dumbbell Workout” – brings you to this fella – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VQZJlSAuOTc

“Overweight Cardio Workout” – everyone has to start somewhere – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f4ploouAfWI

As you can see all you need is an internet connection and a small area to workout in and you can get just as good a workout as you can elsewhere.

If you still miss the outdoors remember that you are self isolating from other people. Not places. So the gym is a no go as there will always be other people there. But is there somewhere you can jog that will have no-one around?

I have been getting up at 4am (time has no meaning when you are in the house 24 hours a day) and going for a run. I have only seen one other person while I have been out and I made sure I took the long way around them.

Be social

And finally. Just because you can’t take visitors doesn’t mean you can’t keep in contact with the world at large. Keep in contact with your friends on social media. Get onto face time with your family. Start a whatsapp group with your sponsor and other sober friends.

And keep sober 🙂

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